In part 4 we look at the longings calling you to change your life. We often dismiss these longings as childhood fantasies or silly daydreams, but they contain the seeds for the next phase of life, the direction you want to take, and who you want to become.
Read MorePain is a part of life we cannot avoid. But we don’t have to suffer.
Read MoreWhen we hit midlife we often find the goals we’ve been pursuing don’t seem to matter as much as they used to, leading to disillusionment and suffering. But what if that was just the next step of our hero’s journey, to reinventing our future?
Read MoreMy new series.
By mid-life we’ve probably achieved most of what we dreamed of in our youth yet instead of satisfaction we often feel disappointed, anxious or bored, asking ourselves, ’Is this it?’ The first half of life has come to an end and we must undertake a hero’s journey (even if we don’t feel like heroes) to find our way to the second half where a new meaning, purpose, and set of values awaits us.
Let’s get started with session 1.
Many times we believe we're listening to someone, but are actually listening through layers of opinions, judgements and assessments in our heads filtering the message. It's possible to notice our filters and put them to one side so we can listen to what's really being said.
Here's how!
Although I sometimes envy the amazing cars others drive, I keep reminding myself that my banged-up old Honda is the result of values-based choices my wife and I started making 25 years ago.
It’s been a challenge but ultimately satisfying.
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Read MoreThe absolute basics of listening are 'stop talking and pay attention'. Simple but not easy. Yet when we do it we transform our relationships!
Read MoreIs it ego or frustration that sometimes stops our ears and brain working properly when people talk to us? Or do we possess hard-wired filters that occasionally misfire?
Below is one of my recent articles published in Sorted magazine.
Read MoreA chef I know recently told me about an incident involving a senior manager who declared to her, and others, that women do not belong ‘on the line’ in the kitchen.
Read MoreI'm a busy-ness addict. I've achieved a lot in my career but the cost has been high. As a business leader being too busy had me focus on quick fixes to seemingly urgent problems instead of attending to the messy priorities requiring patience and thought.
Read More"Make sure you look out for each other, make sure you’re resilient and kind and supportive of each other…” Great words indeed from our Western Australian Health Minister. But the test we all face has exposed the cracks in my resilience.
Read MoreWhat do you do when others give you tough feedback about your behaviour, but you don’t see it yourself? In fact, you think they’re the problem.
Read MoreOver 30 years working with thousands of men I’ve discovered most will talk about their concerns and feelings.
Read MoreDo you ever hear an authoritative, inner voice warning you not to do something? Richard Rohr, a well-known expert on men, calls this interior voice our ‘loyal soldier’ whose job is to help us become productive, obedient citizens by reinforcing the rules and obligations we are taught as kids.
Read MoreRecently I was invited to a twenty-year reunion of former investment banking colleagues in London. I’d been out of that business for two decades.
Read MoreAs a young man Russell’s mentors were his cool cousins and flat-mates. Really, they were just clueless ‘Lost Boys’ like him.
Read MoreMany men don’t know how to respond when a friend, colleague or even a family member is going through a hard time.
Read More"We evolved to need and depend on each other. It’s part of our biology." It was 5:35 am, pitch dark, 6 degrees and cloudless. The road was very wet. Still eight guys were waiting to start the Thursday bike ride.
Read MoreRecently I had a coffee with a young friend who runs a not-for-profit organisation. Normally he is one of the most positive people I know, which is why I so enjoy being with him. He makes me laugh.
Read MoreI recently went away for a weekend together with twenty guys. There was no booze, drugs, porn, hookers, gambling, betting, fine dining, big games to watch, films or entertainment of any kind. The phone reception was terrible.
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